Living in community with more than a nuclear family is like being married to other people too. There will be issues that come up between people. This is normal and healthy and will always be the case, if we have world peace there will still be disagreement. People do not all think the same and there is no right or wrong opinion. In addition everyone has a different set of beliefs and behaviours that stem from their upbringing, from how they handled the issues with the people they grew up with. Some may have needed to be forthright and strong in a large family or as the youngest, just to be heard or not be picked on, others may have learnt that to be safe it was best to be quiet and unseen. In a more peaceful world humans need tools and skills to negotiate the disagreements so that violence is not the outcome. Nonviolent Communication is one of the best tools to facilitate this negotiation.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is being in a state of compassion while engaging when no violence is present in the heart.
NVC asserts that humans are compassionate by nature and that violent behaviours—whether verbal or physical—are learned and supported by the prevailing culture. In addition NVC assumes that humans share the same, basic human needs, and that our actions are a strategy to meet these needs.
People who practice NVC have found an increased understanding and deepening connection with others and that conflict resolution is easier.
To learn more about NVC go to their website: https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/
"When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving!"
-- CNVC founder, Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing, and right-doing, there is a field. I will meet you there".